"i think about how you never really, really know what another person is thinking and how this big complicated world inside my head is in their's too but it looks completely different. It might just be something inconsequential that you don't know they're thinking, maybe they really hate the way you laugh, or that they love country music and play Dolly Parton videos on Youtube when they're on their own because they're embarrassed to own up to it, or bigger stuff, like they've always harboured dreams of being an artist but never talk about it because they know they're not good enough, or really deep stuff like they find trust really difficult or something and struggle internally with it all the time.
It's like you project this misshape of yourself like everyone else does and you constantly try to match your edges up with everyone else even though they're projecting a misshape of themselves and yet you know enough about human nature to be able to do that without messing up every time, even though you can't see exactly what shape that misshape is. Why don't we just constantly grind edges with each other doing such a complicated thing? Then a third person comes along and you manage that too, even between the you and the first person, you somehow adapt to accomodate this other person. So much of everyone is an unknown entity, really, and yet for the most part it just works. It amazes and intrigues me."
-Random Redditor ([–]shinygreenbean)
I think she was commenting on people's perceptions of the world, but it got me thinking... It's hard enough trying to introspect and find out who YOU are. The idea of who you are underneath everything gets affected by the 'you' that you project to the world, and the 'you' that you want to be, and the 'you' that other people have come to expect, and then all of these start to affect each other as well!
If we don't even have a proper congruence of our own self, it makes you think how grossly inaccurate our judgements of the people around us probably are...
