The Reindeer Section - Your Sweet Voice

"I won't be blamed
For someone else's mistakes..."


I've been thinking a lot about relationships (both platonic and romantic) lately.

Whatever happens, and however things end up, I think in the end, you can only ever know one side of the story- Your side. You can never know with certainty the reasons behind other people's actions, at best you can just see the outcome, and try and work backwards, but you can never be 100% postive about WHY someone did what they did.

For this reason, I think you shouldn't judge people on their actions, because from a subjective pov, it's kinda pointless... It might seem like a good idea to whine, bitch and moan about what someone else has done, but from a personal standpoint, that can only ever give you short-term gains. It seems so much more useful to be able to judge yourself, on your reaction to their actions. I think people don't like to introspect because on some level, we all know what pushes our buttons, and it's a lot more fun to pin the blame on something/someone external rather than ourselves, where the blame usually lies.

Also, it's so easy to let your friends push you away when they need you the most, but it takes a damn good friend to weather the storm that you hurl at them while you're down, and still pull through for them. Too often, I've let petty grievances or pride get in the way of being a good friend, and regretted it later on.

I guess that's the good thing about learning life lessons young- Hopefully, you can learn from them, and be a better person. I think I've done the 'learning' already... I just hope I can live up to what I know I should be doing with my actions...